Mindful Parenting: Techniques for Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids

The goal of being a parent is to prepare our children for the world outside the home. We want them to be able to make decisions on their own and advocate for themselves. We want them to be successful. We want to raise children who are not only successful but also emotionally intelligent. Mindful parenting offers a powerful approach to nurturing emotional intelligence in kids, helping them navigate life with empathy, resilience, and self-awareness. 

You may be asking, like I did, what is mindful parenting? Mindful parenting involves being present and fully engaged in the parenting process. It means paying attention to your child with intention, empathy, and without judgment. This approach fosters a deeper connection with your child and helps them develop a strong emotional foundation. One of the first things we can do is practice active listening. This means to be fully concentrating on what your child is saying, understanding, and responding in a thoughtful manner. When they come to you, put away distractions like phones and make eye contact with them. Meet them at their level. Take time to reflect back to them what you hear them saying. This shows them you are validating their feelings and understanding them. Encourage open ended questions that foster your child to express themselves and how they are feeling. This can be fostered by creating a safe space for your kids to express how they are feeling. Let them know it’s ok to express what they are feeling and that no emotion is bad or wrong for them to feel. Encouraging them to use emotional language like identifying the emotion and encouraging creative outlets can foster an environment where they are able to express themselves without fear of judgment. 

Children will also learn by observing you, the parent. If you are not able to regulate your own emotions, you cannot expect your child to be able to either. Practicing taking deep breaths with your child and learning to be calm before responding in a stressful situation. Identify the emotion you are experiencing and communicate how you are feeling and practice remaining calm in those moments. We all make mistakes in parenting and sometimes these suggestions are easier said than done. It’s important to remain humble during these interactions and if you make a mistake apologize and explain to your child how you will do better next time. This will teach them the importance of repairing and accountability. The same is true for showing empathy and compassion. These are key components of emotional intelligence and if you are able to show those qualities you are teaching your kids those qualities as well. Discussing emotions and how they make you feel and why gives them an example to follow. Another way to foster compassion is giving your kids opportunities to help others whether inside or outside the home. 

Mindful parenting is a powerful approach to raising emotionally intelligent children. By practicing active listening, modeling emotional regulation, encouraging emotional expression, being patient and present, and teaching empathy and compassion, you can help your child develop the skills they need to navigate life with confidence and empathy. You are providing a stronger parent-child bond with your children, which will encourage them to come to you for support as well as questions about life. They will learn to regulate their emotions more effectively and be able to foster healthy relationships outside the home. Embrace the journey of mindful parenting, knowing that your efforts are laying the foundation for your child’s emotional and psychological well-being.